ADHD - Making Short and Long Term Friendships May Prove Difficult For Those With ADHD

For most of us the friendships we made early in lifeSome individuals with attention deficit hyperactivity
have served us well through the years. We candisorder, especially those who are unusually
always call on those old friends for advice when thehyperactive or restless, may feel the need to
situation arises. But imagine if there was no one tointerrupt conversations and situations where they're
call or for that matter there were very few peoplenot invited by constantly interrupting others, or
that wanted to talk to you simply because yourbehaving in a hostile, arrogant fashion. Most of us
personality seemed overbearing, rude, self centered,would agree that this type of pushy behavior not
impulsive, or just flat out strange. Welcome to theonly makes people mad but labels the pushy person
world that many of those with attention deficitas rude and inconsiderate.
hyperactivity disorder reside in.Finding help
ADHD symptoms can make it very difficult forWhile biological neurotransmitter balancing stimulant
anyone with attention deficit disorder to make andmedications will reduce symptom in seven out of ten
maintain friendships. Their symptoms make simpleinstances they can't teach new skills or improve
communication skills such as picking up oninterpersonal challenges. One of the types of
communication cues and translating nonverbal cuestreatment most often suggested for dealing with
into appropriate action almost impossible. This willboth the person upset that social shortcomings
eventually to lead them to shy away from socialdeliver and learning strategies to better fit in to
interaction, in favor of a safer life consisting ofsocietal norms is that of cognitive behavioral therapy
solitude and isolationism.or CBT.
Another set of social skill problems often seen inCBT is a form of treatment that combines elements
ADHD individuals of all ages is the failure to see theof both behavioral therapy and cognitive therapy.
need to nurture relationships and keep them growingTogether, these two forms of treatment work to
and going. They may also forget about friends needshelp the ADHD individual make positive social and
leading potential friends to believe they are simplepersonal changes by altering the way they think and
too self centered to have a two way conversation.act using an intricate web of conditioning and
Individuals with ADHD may not feel the need to textassociation. In other words a CBT professional will
or call their friends, send a friendly email just to sayuse these four steps: First explore the situation or
hello and catch up on old times, remember birthdayssituations where problem ADHD behavior exists,
and other important dates, or remember to consoledevelops a strategy for better handling it, work with
them after a personal emotional disaster. This lack ofthe ADHD individual to implements that strategy
caring may leave this potential or soon to be exsuccessfully, and last but not least assess the results
friend alienated and hurt making it next to impossibleand makes the appropriate adjustments to achieve
for the friendship to move forward in a positive way.the intended behavioral modifications.
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