Admitting You Are Powerless

Alcoholics Anonymous have their Twelve Steps, asIf we only cast our minds back, for instance, to
do other recovery programs. Step One is:yesterday we'll find that somewhere along the line
We admitted we were powerless over [alcohol]-thatwe compromised where we shouldn't have, or we
our lives had become unmanageable.made a promise we couldn't or wouldn't keep or we
That is where I got to, and not just with alcohol. Isaid something that wasn't true. We weren't true to
must admit that I've been prone to things all throughourselves. This is not something to get down about
life where I just had to say, 'God, I just can't controlor to lose sleep over; it's just the way we are. It's a
this thing.' This is why I placed square parenthesesbig part of the reason why we need God in our lives.
around "alcohol," for it's not only alcohol we oftenKnowing this fact, however, is power for us because
have trouble managing... it can be any number ofwhen we establish a weakness to a particular thing
things.we know that we're especially weak to it i.e. we're
And yet, self control is not really an issue in manyespecially dishonest with ourselves about it. We've
other areas of our lives is it? - self control in this wayestablished the habit for it.
is rather selective. Or rather, it weakens usAll we need to do, however, is ensure there are
selectively, I should say.good sound ways of keeping ourselves accountable
Admitting we're powerless over something in ourto the truth. Admitting our powerlessness over the
lives, particularly a sensate - something thatthing that has kept us captive is the first step...
massages and nourishes the senses - is but the firstThe second step is, of course, coming "to believe
step in gaining victory and hence liberation from thethat a Power greater than ourselves [God] could
tormenting force it usually becomes.restore us to sanity," which I'll leave for a separate
And we have every chance of recoveringarticle.
completely, if we're honest.Over some things we will be powerless. It is only
Those who do not recover [from whatever ails themGod that can truly help us with these. Honesty with
- not simply alcohol] are people who cannot or willGod is centrally about surrendering our issues of
not completely give themselves to this simpledependency and addiction to him - the irony of giving
program, usually men and women who areup what we can't keep to find what we cannot lose.
constitutionally incapable of being honest with© 2010 S. J. Wickham.
themselves.[1] Alcoholics Anonymous, The Big Book (4th Ed)
Honesty is the final, lasting salve for the wound - our(New York City, New York, Alcoholics Anonymous
problem that has haunted us. And we all struggle farWorld Services, Inc., 1939, 1955, 1976, 2001), p. 58. I
too much with this issue when we consider it just ahave added the information in italics in the square
little more.parentheses.