Dealing With an Aggressive Child - Biting, Kicking and Other Violence

Some kids go through a biting phase when they are
young, but thankfully grow out of it fairly quickly.Try team sports or other forms of guided activity
Others suddenly go from being sweet and easy toOnce the most serious reasons for the aggressive
deal with to being a ticking time bomb of tension andbehavior are ruled out, it may only be a matter or
barely suppressed rage. Whether it is a phase theyredirecting the energy that fuels the aggressive
need to grow out of or something more serious,outbursts. Giving the child a way to burn off energy
there are ways to deal with an aggressive child.or something to focus on can stem or even
Know your child's aggression triggerscompletely stop the negative behaviors. Karate or
Your child may act out at certain times or when overother forms of martial arts help children channel their
stimulated, hungry or very tired. For some childrenenergy in a positive manner while learning
certain games or toys may bring out the aggressionself-discipline. Joining a team teaches the child how to
and some kids may be triggered by certain peoplework with others as a unit. If they truly love the
(like certain friends). If you know the trigger, you cansport they will find a way to toe the line or face
watch for and head off aggressive bouts beforebeing removed from the team.
they get started.Try alternate therapies if deemed necessary
Intervene before the aggression turns violentIf the child does need counseling, traditional therapy
If you see that your child is about to go into amay not help very much. In fact, it is thought that in
kicking, screaming or other physical act of aggression,some children with aggressive tendencies that sitting
it is time to step in. Remind your child that it is neveraround and talking about feelings will make them
acceptable to put their hands on another person ateven more prone to physical acts. Other forms of
any time. If you have to remove the child from thetherapy may be less intimidating to them; these could
situation, do so as quickly and quietly as possible. Ifinclude play therapy, art therapy, pet therapy and
you are at someone else's home, you may have tomusic therapy.
leave. Remind your child about another incident that- In play therapy, the child will act out what makes
ended with leaving early and that it will continue tothem feel aggressive and may begin to understand
happen until they have better control.how their behavior affects others.
Investigate reasons for the aggression- With art therapy, the child is encouraged to draw
If your child has gone from your sweet angel to thehis feelings including the aggression.
town terror seemingly overnight, you must- Pet therapy pairs an aggressive child with a dog or
investigate why. Is the child in the middle of a growthcat and in some cases a horse so that they can learn
spurt? Is there a health or diet reason for theto care for another creature.
behavior? Is there a psychological reason for this- Finally, music therapy is very effective with
new aggression? Is the behavior isolated in one placeaggression, even for those children who are exhibiting
or does the aggression show up regardless of whereaggression in conjunction with autism. Make sure that
the child is? For some children, aggressive behavioryou follow up with the aggressive behavior even
can be changed with diet, medications or counseling;after it seems to be gone, so that it does not return
for others it could be as simple as changing bedtimesunexpectedly. Patience and perseverance is the key
and adjusting schedules.when correcting the behavior of an aggressive child.