Dream Therapy - Dreams Can Be Emotional Problem Solvers

Why should we bother with dreams?are more complicated and nuanced than what
Aren't dreams just nonsense...just neurons randomlypositive thinking, common sense or good manners will
firing?endorse.
Evolution has selected for dreaming.We have mixed feeling about most experiences.
Sleep researchers tell us that all humans and many- The birth of a child brings joy but also a curtailment
animals dream several times every night. Dream sleepof freedom.
is so important that experimental subjects prevented- We love and admire our best friend but her
from experiencing REM sleep, the part the sleep insuccess makes us jealous.
which dreams occur, begin to hallucinate after just a- We think we want to study to be a lawyer but is it
couple of nights of deprivation. They effectivelyreally our father's dream for us?
begin to dream when they are awake. It is thatUnderstanding our dreams helps us understand
important to dream. The ability to dream has beenourselves more fully.
evolutionarily selected for because it serves a vital- When the conscious attitude agrees pretty well
function in human life.with the unconscious one, dreams will underline,
Human beings in all times and places have examinedendorse or strengthen belief and resolve... they
dreams with interest and attention. Mythical andsupport a feeling of confidence or "rightness".
religious characters are portrayed as valuing and being- When consciousness overvalues a person or
influenced or changed by dreams. The ancient Greekssituation dreams may shrink it down to size by
dedicated temples and trained priests and priestessesportraying it in an unpleasant or inferior way.
to interpret dreams. Sigmund Freud, the originator of- When consciousness does not sufficiently value a
psychoanalysis, out of which developed most otherperson, situation or goal the unconscious may elevate
modern therapies, called dreams "The royal road tothe idea, by symbolically representing it as
the unconscious" and Moses Maimonides, the famousappropriately precious.
Jewish philosopher is famous for saying that "A- Dreams can add new knowledge to consciousness,
dream unexamined is like a letter unopened"raise questions or suggest goals or things to be
Psychoanalyst Paul Lipmann (2008) offers us theavoided.
following list of what he feels that dreams offer:A picture is worth a thousand words.
- They state and solve problems.A huge amount of the information that we take in
- They express emotion... subtle and loud.about the world is visual. Almost every important
- They can express in images and stories thoseexperience has a visual memory of people, places
feelings and experiences that are most difficult toand things attached to it. Since most life knowledge
think or talk about when awake.and ideas are tied up in some way with visual images,
- They can express hidden feelings about one'sit is not really surprising that images should be the
relationship to powerful and less powerful others.material that the unconscious uses to represent its
- They can both dissociate and bind together aspectsideas.
of traumatic or any experience.Dream images may seem strange at first glance, but
- They can help cover pain and shame or can ripthey are often proven on examination to be
apart a scab of defense.extremely accurate visual metaphors of a situation
- They portray our current problems, past dilemmas,which concerns the dreamer.
and future possibilities.A very personal point of view
- They gratify wishes.- There is no "one size fits all" in dream interpretation.
- They can give expression to the life not lived.The images in dreams are often often mysterious
Dreams are unconscious products.and bizarre, they may make reference to other
Cognitive psychologists tell us that we can holdtimes and places or show the dreamer as someone
approximately seven (plus or minus two if yourentirely other that what they are in reality.
memory is exceptionally good or bad) "chunks" of- Dream dictionaries should be used sparingly and
information in our minds at once.treated mostly as sources of inspiration.
That is seven digits in a phone number, seven items- The dreamer is the only person who can say
of a grocery list. That is not very many and yet wewhether an interpretation "works".
have access to a vast reservoir of memories,Dreams in Psychotherapy
concepts and emotional experiences which are calledA psychologist who works with dreams in therapy
up effortlessly and seamlessly into that famous setdraws on her knowledge of the client's life situation
of seven chunks. And just as seamlessly thoseand life history as well as her training in typical
concepts not in immediate use slip out and are putpatterns of human response. She works with her
away. It's a truly amazing system when you thinkclients to understand the dream images in relation to
about it... effortless and taken for granted. But whatwhat the client is struggling with or has experienced
is the mechanism that reaches down and pulls up thein life. Together they try to understand what
information that is needed? Most of the time it is notparticular relevance and associations that these
"conscious intention."images have for this particular individual.
Unconscious processing is a natural and necessary- Dream work in therapy contributes to the process
part of thinkingof deepening self knowledge.
Unconscious processing always underpins and- Understanding of the full range of their desires and
facilitates conscious thinking. It is the system whichresponses permits the client to invent new
receives, organizes and makes accessible all of thepossibilities for action and decision... to change their life
concepts and experiences that we own. It is simplyin ways that make their desires and their actions
impossible to be consciously aware of everything wemore congruent.
know or to consciously make all the associations- Dream work deepens therapeutic intimacy and
between facts that we must in order to make sensecreates a collaborative atmosphere between
of our experience.therapist and client.
Importantly related facts, ideas and feelings mayBrief therapy centered on dreams
have been accumulated over a lifetime, arriving atPsychotherapeutic work with dreams may be part of
different times and out of different life experiences.an on-going therapy or may be helpful as a short
Consciousness, which is busy figuring out what toterm process which focuses on understanding a
make for supper, rarely takes time to sniff aroundparticular situation, for example:
and explore all the potential associations... even to- In periods of normal transition such as life passages,
pressing life problems.- In periods of crisis,
Fortunately we have an alternative system to do this- When difficult decisions are being considered
work... psychoanalysts call this the personal- When radically new life experiences must be
unconscious . Cognitive researchers call it "automaticassimilated.
processing"," implicit thought systems" or even "deep- Sometimes a particularly striking dream or dream
psychological processes". No one tries to pretend thatseries will evoke a desire to question or understand a
consciousness is big enough or strong to do all thecurrent or past situation or experience.
work alone.At these moments it may be helpful to consider
When we are concerned about some aspect of ourworking with a psychologist or therapist who will
lives or relationships, the unconscious continues toprovide guidance and emotional support and help
work on the problem while consciousness is busysteady you as you explore the questionsthat dream
doing other things. Anyone who has ever had anexamination raises.
"Aha!" moment has had the experience of thingsDreams are part of our system of unconscious
being brought together unconsciously and presentedre-organization and creative problem solving. They pull
as a now obvious fact or solution.the essence of a problematic situation out of the
Sleep on it!!clutter of daily experience so we can see it more
The unconscious attempts to offer us larger accessclearly. They remind us of what we have nearly
to what we know.forgotten, or of what we have tried to forget and
One of the main ways that the unconscious isbring together ideas that we knew separately but
positively integrated in our lives is through dreams.which click" and create new understanding when
Dreams contain attempts by the unconscious to bringbrought together. They help us see what we really
us information and make the arguments thatdesire and they point the way to future possibilities
elaborate or counterbalance the conscious attitude.that grow out of past experiences.
Typically, our feelings about situations and persons