How To Calm Your Kids Down With Music

As a grandmother of four grandchildren under theI learned that it is therapeutic to match a patient's
age of five, it's often overwhelming when they allmood with music of the same or similar mood. This
come over to my house for a visit. On the occasionssurprised me, because I thought that if a particular
that I have been left alone with them, babysitting orpatient was, for example, depressed, then wouldn't it
just playing with them, they often becomefollow that, in order to help the patient out of
boisterous and loudly competitive, sometimes difficultdepression, it would be more helpful to play "happy'
to control.music? Not so, according to the music therapy
One day, anticipating their arrival, I decided to turn onexperts. It is apparently preferable to allow the
some quiet, soothing music and to have it playingparticular mood rather than fight it, as the patient
during their visit. I wondered if it would help keepoften experiences more agitation when listening to
them calmer and, hopefully, more quiet than usual, (Imusic opposite their mood.
already had a slight headache, even before theirMaybe it was a lucky coincidence that my
arrival). My oldest grandson noticed the music. Igrandchildren were calmer and more mellow than
asked him if he liked it, and he said yes, that itusual that day - maybe the music actually matched
sounded like "sleepy music," so I left it on, quietly intheir moods. I wonder, which actually came first -
the background.their moods or the music?
After about a half hour, I noticed, (happily, I mightI think that either case is feasible: sometimes a mood
add), that the children were playing "nicely" together,might be improved upon with the judicial use of
and that the atmosphere was generally less noisyappropriate music and conversely, music can possibly
and more relaxed than on previous visits. And myaggravate a given mood. I find it interesting that
headache, (albeit with the aid of an aspirin), wasmusic can support emotions or exacerbate them.
noticeably better.It was a lovely afternoon with the grandkids. Maybe
Upon reflection, I considered that the change in theirthe music assisted them in achieving a more peaceful
general behavior was largely due to the calmingafternoon at their grandmother's house. I know one
influence of the music. I was reluctant to challengething, they were visibly more relaxed, more attentive
my hypothesis by changing to more upbeat music, asto storytelling and story books and less combative
I was enjoying the peaceful atmosphere too muchand aggressive. Maybe I just got lucky that day.
and didn't want to risk it. But I was impressed withPerhaps I'll test my theory further another day during
the obvious power inherent in music and howanother visit, but I'll make sure that I don't have a
conducive it was for a peaceful experience .headache if I do..
When I was a music student studying Music Therapy,