| . . . so people won't laugh at you for lying. | | | | therapy. When I asked, she explained that she |
| "What do you mean, lying?" I hear you ask. | | | | studies a client's body language. She knows which |
| I'm talking about body language--the subconscious | | | | habitual movements express negative feelings and |
| story you tell people. You tell with your body what | | | | which positive ones. She works with recovering drug |
| you think of yourself generally and at the moment. It | | | | addicts who have very few natural positive motions. |
| may be the opposite of what you are saying. | | | | These she encourages to become habitual. The |
| You know, don't you, that we all learn how to walk | | | | negative moves she discourages. Her clients are |
| at least twice. Some go on to learn a few more | | | | learning how to walk again. And dance. |
| times. The first time, of course, is around age one. | | | | Actors and politicians learn how to walk more than |
| The second time occurs between ages 13 and 17. | | | | twice, too. It's fun to watch political speeches on |
| That's when we are deciding who we are. We | | | | television with the sound muted. Even if a president |
| practice walking, consciously. Remember? | | | | is reading from a teleprompter and has rehearsed all |
| After a while the walk becomes subconscious. | | | | his gestures beforehand, his subconscious still tells a |
| Gestures do, too. | | | | tale. How you intrepret it, of course, depends on |
| Every time I struggle to express a concept verbally | | | | your subconscious. |
| to a listener, I run my left hand through my hair. I am | | | | We kid ourselves when we think we are rational. |
| never aware of doing it or of messing up my | | | | In fact, knowing we are not rational can be a saving |
| hairstyle. I must be trying to relax my frontal lobes | | | | grace, the beginning of a better life. It certainly was |
| so I can find the words to make sense. I don't see | | | | for me. I tell all about it in Brainsweep. |
| myself walk or dance, either, but I do know I've | | | | I'm sure you know that there are several ways to |
| always had tight shoulders. | | | | change our subconscious tales. All it really takes is |
| Tight shoulders reveal anxiety. Existential anxiety. | | | | realizing we are telling them. After that we can write |
| If you read "Self for Sale", you know how body | | | | them out, as in Brainsweep, hypnotize them into |
| language is part of your frame, how you frame | | | | changing, as in Centerpointe, Sedona, and Effort-free |
| every offer you make. | | | | Living, dance them out or Method Act them out. (I'm |
| And, no matter what you do every day, you are | | | | guessing on the Method Act one) |
| making an offer to somebody in exchange for | | | | Of course, if you like the tales you're telling now, just |
| something. (Unless you're a hermit.) | | | | keep on dancing. |
| It's fun to watch mimes perform. They can say so | | | | Evy, The Whole-mind Writer |
| much with their bodies. | | | | P.S. Next time you watch TV, mute the sound and |
| My stepdaughter has a master's degree in dance | | | | guess what each person is really saying. |