How to Motivate your Child

The summer has begun and you are probablyparents’ attitudes? Everyone is motivated to do
concerned that your child will be lounging in front ofsomething. So where does the motivation come
the TV, playing game boy, or listening to their ipod allfrom? First, are the Extrinsic Factors, i.e., things
day. Was the school year a constant struggle tooutside of a person that determine their motivation
complete the work and keep the grades up? Many(for example: good grades, praise, rewards and
families struggle with these issues on a daily basis. Innegative attention). On the other hand are the
order to plan for your child during the summer andIntrinsic Factors, i.e. things inside a person that
prepare them for the year ahead, you need to knowdetermine their motivation (for example, feelings of
their needs as well as their likes.accomplishment, achievement and success). Another
For children who have struggled through school withissue that affects a child’s motivation is their
a learning issue or psychological problem, such ashome environment, with causes such as: if there is
depression, anxiety, ADD or ADHD the summer is aunderlying depression, anxiety, difficulty focusing,; if
perfect time to receive therapy, catch up and buildthere are greater concerns—dad lost his job,
up skills through tutoring, therapeutic and/or academicimpending divorce, death in the family, then full effort
programs. Mind Spectrum Institute in North Miamiand motivation takes a back seat. Finally, there’s
Beach is one of those places that specialize in thethe impending needs, such as need to belong, be
treatment of children and adults for conditions suchaccepted, or physical needs like security and health.
as depression, anxiety and ADD or ADHD.. ForAll of the latter can cause lack of motivation, poor
others, especially the teenagers, the summer is aself-esteem, and isolation and health issues.
perfect time to work, learn some responsibilities andIf you find that your child is suffering from any of
earn spending money so they can go out with theirthe above symptoms, specially you perceive an
peers. For those children with special talents, drivesunderlying depression or anxiety the first thing to do
and skills, a specialty camp to reinforce these skills willis to talk to your child and get their input. Plan ahead
be ideal. For all others, being involved in camp, sports,what your concerns are and the possible solutions. It
and playful activities should be encouraged. I believeis important to remain impartial and non-judgmental
that children who have too much free time are moreand to listen rather than lecture your child. To
likely to get in trouble than children who are busy.empower and motivate your child you want to
Children have a natural tendency to experiment anddetermine their likes and dislikes as well as their
be mischievous. Does this mean they cannot haveenergy levels. Finally, present a list of alternatives and
free time and just enjoy the summer? This meansallow them to choose. Having a purpose and working
three months is too much free time for any childtowards a goal is a great motivator. Remember,
(and for most parents who need to work and cannotmost people can be motivated to do something; we
supervise and entertain their children). What if youronly need to figure out what they really like and
child does not want to participate in any of thesewhat the rewards are. Therefore, the next time your
activities?child seems unmotivated, take the time to look, listen
What do we know about motivation? First we mustand plan a strategy. If all else fails seek therapy for
rule out that there is no depression or anxietyyour child. An untreated depression, anxiety, learning
interfering with the child’s day to day behavior. Ifdisability or emotional issue can have a negative
so seek help and treatment. We know severalimpact on the child and their development. There are
factors influence motivation, such as: Is the taskspecial centers for the treatment of depression,
elective or required? What kind of student is theanxiety and children’s emotional issues.
child? What is the environment like? What are the