The Burden of Being the First Born

Society and culture can often place extreme burdensand demands. While they have little concern over
on the first-born child in a family. Being the eldest childsocial anxiety, the psychological need to maintain the
in the family often entails additional responsibilities,family's position often results in a form of
expectations, and demands. Different cultures exhibitperformance anxiety, as the performance of the child
this tendency in varying degrees, though the addedis inevitably compared to anything and everything
pressure and importance of the first-born haspossible. In some cases, the child is compared to his
sometimes been seen as a universal trait. However,parents, though parents are more likely to compare
given the right psychological conditions, a first-bornthe child to his peers.
child can mentally collapse under such responsibilities,For members of royalty or long, noble bloodlines,
with effects ranging from developing an anxietythere is an even greater pressure.  Those who are
disorder to severe case of performance anxiety.from so-called noble or aristocratic families sometimes
Parents from different countries and cultures usuallygrow up with a social anxiety that drives them to live
expect the first-born child to be the one to carry onup to the reputation of their forebears. People with
the family name, as well as help maintain the family'sfamous ancestors also feel the pressure of having
reputation. In the modern environment, this tends tothe same achievements as those of their well-known
include the expectation of performing well in thepredecessors. The problem comes when people
academic, personal, and professional realm. Childreninevitably compare the ancestor to the descendant; a
are oftentimes expected to perform as well if notcomparison that typically shows favor towards the
exceed the performance and achievements of theirancestor. This can sometimes cause a child to feel
parents.  In some lower class families, theperformance anxiety, rendering them unable or
expectation also includes bringing in the extra moneyunwilling to even attempt to achieve anything on
needed by the family for its daily survival. The eldesttheir own, fearing the "unfair" comparisons that they
son or daughter is also expected to help with the billsexpect to come.
in the house as well to send the younger siblings toAll of these demands and pressures can sometimes
school. These pressures generate resentment,come together to "snap" the first-born and make
frustration, and  a deeply-rooted sense of statusthem lash out in a variety of ways. Some reject the
anxiety and social anxiety.responsibilities altogether and actively endeavor to be
For first-born children in the higher classes of athe exact opposite of what is expected of them.
particular society, the more prevalent problem is aOthers develop an anxiety disorder that effectively
combination of status anxiety and performancecripples their ability to fulfill their duties, despite their
anxiety. The problem here stems not from the desirewillingness to do so. A few decide to isolate
to better one's status, but to maintain the currentthemselves not only from society, but from their
status and preserve the family's collective socialown families. In some instances, people have
reputation. As such, first-born children are groomedobserved that the first-born exhibits what can only
to either be mirror images of their parents, or abe described as a fear of success, resulting from the
reflection of the hopes and dreams the parents hadinability to cope with the high expectation that he
when the child was born. The personal identitywas raised with and has blown out of proportion. In
becomes blurred with concepts such as filial duty andrare cases, the pressure builds to the point that the
social status, essentially fostering an individuality onlyonly way to relieve it is to embrace ---- madness.
when it is in accordance with social and familial values