The One Word That Will Undermine Your Success

The movie, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium," tellsmore energy when we take "just" out, right?
the story of a young woman who works at a veryWithout "just," I can own my profession and take
special toy store. The store owner hired a youngresponsibility for my career. That responsibility is
gentleman to help get the paperwork in orderwhat people fear. Questions like this come up: What
because it had been neglected for years. Theif I am not good enough? Who is to blame if this
gentleman was very dry, with little sense of humor,project fails? These questions a dissipated by adding
and an all work no play attitude. At one point in the"just" to our vocabulary. We no longer need to feel
movie he tells the assistant, "It is just a toy store."responsible, and the mistakes we make become no
She was quite offended, because she knew therebig deal, because, after all, "I am just a life coach."
was something special and magical about the store.The other point to make about this word is that
They go on to have a short conversation ending in"Just" is a minimizing word. It oversimplifies the
her saying, "You are a just man, aren't you?"events and truths of our lives. When we oversimplify
She quickly pointed out that we all say "just" quitethings, we take out the possibilities for growth and
often. That one little word disqualifies any implicationfreedom. What other types of things do we
of the idea that there is more to life. This one littleminimize? Just a hobby. Just snow. Just a rainbow.
word can undermine your success!Just my career. Just my family. Just a box. If we
On a surface level of awareness,"just" takes off thetake "just" out of our vocabulary, we can add
pressure of life. It allows us to slip into thepsychological room to grow, gain a deeper sense of
background, and evens out the waves we could bepurpose to our actions, and reaffirm our belief
making.systems.
If we look a little deeper, "just" also says there isHere is a simple metaphor for you:
nothing special. Nothing beyond what the eye sees.Picture a box. Now, put the words "just me" in it.
No deeper meaning. It covers up the magic of lifeSuddenly, the box becomes cramped, with minimal
and disqualifies the significance of what we think, do,wiggle room. Now, take "just" out. The box has more
and believe. Often, we use the word "just" when weroom, with more space to fill with ME! I would
are afraid to commit to our significant impact on thepersonally love for the box itself to disappear, leaving
world.ME with infinite possibility for growth and change.
Feel the difference between these two statements:Changing language in this way will get you one step
I am just a musician. I am just a life coach.closer to the infinite possibility you crave. What will
I am a musician. I am a life coach.you do with the possibility?
The difference is in the way we say it. There is