The Top 3 Practice Points For Gaining Self Awareness

A couple of years ago I went to a one daythe past month or so. My body felt like it was in
meditation retreat with Cheri Huber. One of thecompetition, even when it wasn't. Why? Because I
guided meditations centered on practice. She saidneglected that part of me. That emotional trait had
that everything in life is practice. And she meantbeen deprived for a couple of months. If I had not
EVERYTHING!paid attention to the small signs - the small repetitive
At first, I was skeptical. I know that as a musician,actions - I could have gotten myself into a sticky and
the way I practice is the way I perform. Forunnecessary situation. Because of this awareness
example, I insist that my music students focus onevaluation, I noticed them, and am now taking care
their breathing technique - even when goofing offof it. I found a gym where I felt comfortable, with
and playing for their friends. Why? The more theypeople who will push me to my limit - and allow me
breathe correctly in "fun play," the more likely theyto push back. Problem solved.
are to breathe correctly when on stage. What aboutTake some time to think about your actions. What
the students who ignore my advice? They are therepetitive actions do you take? What actions do you
very ones who have a difficult time on stage andrespond to automatically? Just take note.
perform below their ability.Last, what about our beliefs? Our beliefs shape who
The way I carry myself, view myself, beliefs I holdwe are and how we see the world around us. This
about myself, my actions, my repetitive thoughts...it isone is worth spending some time with.
all practice. All of these things prepare me for myWhat kind of person are you? What things are you
day and ingrain a pattern of behavior that repeats -good or bad at? What struggles do you face? What
exactly as I practice it.things do you dread or look forward to? Why? Jot
There are three evaluation points that we must paydown your thoughts as they come up. No judgment,
attention to, in order to gain self awareness. Theyjust facts.
include thoughts, actions, and beliefs. Here are theThe practice of your beliefs creates your reality.
top three questions to ask yourself:Your brain will begin to believe the beliefs to be true;
What beliefs do I practice?it will then scan your environment for evidence that
What thoughts and feelings go through my mind dailythey are true. For example, if you believe you are
to prepare me for the kind of life I am living?weak, and you practice that belief in your mind, your
What automatic actions do I take on a regular basis?brain will look for examples to prove that it is true.
What actions are instant reactions instead ofThe heavy trash can you have trouble taking to the
decisions?street? Proof that you are weak. The car door that
First, lets take a look at your thoughts. If I couldseems heavier than normal? Proof that you are
record all of the thoughts that go through your mindweak. The workout that did not go very well? More
every day, what would I hear? What kind of thingsproof that you are weak. Then, your body will begin
do you talk to yourself about? What do you wishto react to your environment as if you are truly
you could say to other people? What thoughts areweak. You will unconsciously begin to avoid heavy
you practicing, mindlessly? I call this mind chatter.objects and perform below ability in your work outs.
Everyone does it. The quality of it is what makes aThe unfortunate part of this story is that you are
difference in your day.actually strong. The trash can is heavier this week
Is your mind chatter sarcastic? Defensive?because someone dumped an old steel wheel in it
Explanatory? Pleading? Having a pity party? Paywhile you were not looking. And the car door? It was
attention to what your mind is telling you - pay closea friend's car that needs its hinges greased.
attention to how your mind is telling you these things.Remember the workout that did not work out. Your
After you have the gist of your thought patterns,brain "forgot" that you were sick the night before
turn your attention to your actions. What behaviorsfrom the 24 hour flu that was going around. Your
do you repeat and practice without even noticing?body was still in its recovery stage.
Do you bite your fingernails? Do you exerciseThe brain does not pick up on these logical
excessively? Overeat? Pace in worry? Talk fast? Feelexplanations because it is too busy looking for
like you are in a hurry? Sleep too much? Repetitiveconfirming evidence that you are weak.
actions are usually a signal to yourself that there is anThis is why it is a good idea to spend a great deal of
unexpressed emotion.time evaluating your belief systems. Make sure they
For example, I was acting very competitively overare factually true.